Finding the mother-of-the-bride dress is one of the most emotionally significant shopping experiences of the wedding season — and one of the least well-guided. Most advice is generic. This guide is specific to Minnesota: venue-appropriate fabric choices, coordination with the wedding party without matching, and honest guidance on silhouettes from a team that works with mothers every season.
The mother of the bride occupies a unique position in the wedding: she's not in the bridal party, but she's not a guest either. She's the emotional anchor of the day — the person the bride turns to in the getting-ready room, the one who straightens the veil, the one who cries first. Her dress should honor that role: visible, elegant, intentional, but never competing with the bride.
At Annika Bridal, we work with mothers every season. The questions are consistent, the anxiety is universal, and the eventual joy — when a mother sees herself in the mirror and feels genuinely beautiful — is one of the most rewarding moments in our boutique.
When Should the Mother of the Bride Start Dress Shopping?
Start 4 to 6 months before the wedding. This gives you time to order if needed, complete alterations, and — most importantly — coordinate with the bride and the mother of the groom. The mother of the bride traditionally chooses her dress first, then communicates her color and formality to the mother of the groom.
Do not start before the bride has chosen her dress. You need to know the wedding's color palette, formality level, and aesthetic direction before you can make an informed decision about your own look.
How Do You Coordinate With the Wedding Party Without Matching?
The mother of the bride should harmonize with the wedding's color story without looking like she belongs in the bridal party. Ask the bride early about her color palette — not to match it exactly, but to find a complementary lane.
- If bridesmaids are in dusty blue — consider navy, champagne, soft mauve, or silver. These sit in a complementary zone without duplicating the bridal party.
- If bridesmaids are in sage green — consider warm taupe, deep plum, or soft gold. Warm tones provide beautiful contrast to cool greens.
- If the palette is neutral (whites, creams, blacks) — you have wide latitude. Blush, slate, champagne, or a deeper jewel tone all work.
- Colors to generally avoid — white, ivory, or anything that could read 'bridal' in photographs. Also avoid the exact bridesmaid color — you're not in the bridal party.
What Silhouette Is Most Flattering for the Mother of the Bride?
The ideal mother-of-the-bride dress does two things simultaneously: it makes her feel genuinely beautiful, and it lets her move freely through a long, emotional day. A-line dresses are universally flattering, especially with a defined waist. Column dresses work beautifully for mothers who want a sophisticated, streamlined look. Tea-length dresses are increasingly popular for less formal weddings and are often more comfortable than floor-length gowns.
Avoid anything too tight through the midsection — you'll be sitting, standing, bending to hug, and dancing all day. The dress needs to move with you. Avoid anything too short for the venue — if the bridesmaids are in floor-length gowns, a cocktail-length mother's dress can look under-dressed.
What Fabric Works Best by Season in Minnesota?
- Spring & Summer — lightweight chiffon, flowing crepe, or lace in soft tones. Breathable and comfortable in warm weather. Avoid heavy satin in June through August.
- Fall — structured crepe, silk mikado, or embellished gowns in jewel tones. Champagne and warm burgundy feel seasonally appropriate. This is the most versatile season for mother-of-the-bride dressing.
- Winter — rich fabrics with a touch of drama. Long sleeves, elegant wraps, and deeper colors (midnight navy, deep plum, forest green) feel right. Velvet accents add seasonal warmth.
Should the Mother of the Bride Wear a Cover-Up?
If the wedding is in a church that requests covered shoulders, yes. If you prefer additional coverage for comfort, yes. A matching jacket, bolero, or wrap can be worn for the ceremony and removed for the reception, giving you two looks in one. Many designers create mother-of-the-bride gowns with matching cover-up pieces specifically for this purpose.
Your dress should let you forget about the dress entirely — and simply be present for one of the greatest days of your life.
We reserve dedicated appointments for mothers of the bride at Annika Bridal, giving you the time, privacy, and personal attention the experience deserves. Reserve your appointment at our Edina boutique and let us help you find the dress that honors this extraordinary day.
Frequently Asked Questions
When should the mother of the bride start dress shopping?
Start 4 to 6 months before the wedding, after the bride has chosen her dress and established her color palette. The mother of the bride traditionally chooses first, then communicates her selection to the mother of the groom.
What color should the mother of the bride wear?
Choose a color that complements the wedding palette without matching the bridesmaids. Avoid white, ivory, or the exact bridesmaid color. Safe, elegant choices include navy, champagne, mauve, soft gold, and jewel tones.
Can the mother of the bride wear black?
Yes, if the wedding's formality supports it. A black gown at a formal evening wedding can be stunning and sophisticated. However, at a casual daytime wedding, black may feel too formal. Consider the bride's preference — some brides love it, others prefer softer colors.
How much does a mother of the bride dress cost?
Mother-of-the-bride dresses typically range from $300 to $2,000+ depending on the designer and retailer. Budget an additional $200–$500 for alterations and accessories. At Annika Bridal, we carry options across a wide price range.
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